What does love look like?

As some of you may know I never give readings to my friends which means that, should they want a reading, they have to seek it out from somebody else.  Much to their annoyance as they would prefer a freebie from me.  I wont go into the reasons why I do not give them readings as it will deviate from the story I have to share.  Here goes.....

A friend of mine was told by a psychic that she would be meeting a new man very soon.  Well to be precise she was told where she would meet, an approximate date and a few details about the guy.  It just so happens that she was due to attend a significant event at this time and it was totally possible that she would meet the kind of man described at this event.

Well, the event came and went.  In typical fashion I forgot to ask her about it, (I've always got a million things to do and tend to forget EVERYTHING unless I write it down).  However, when I finally remembered I dropped her a text asking how the event went.  Conveniently or not, she negated to mentioned this guy that she told that she would meet at the event.  Being nosy, I asked directly if she had met the guy that the psychic had mentioned.  Her reply ".....no, hot ones."

My first thought was sometimes love doesn't look how we expect it to.  The fact that it just flashed into my mind was my sure sign that this was spirit speaking to me and it is this that I want to reflect on now.

Let's face it we all have a type of guy/woman that we go for.  For me it's taller guys, trendy, shaved head, preferably well built with tattoos, although 1 tattoo will suffice.  However, this type doesn't seem to have done me any favours seeing as I am still single at 30.  But, what I have learnt from years of dating and heartbreak, as well as doing countless love readings is that love doesn't always look the way we expect it to.

A lot of us hold this rigid image of what our ideal partner will look like.  We have it fixed in our mind how he will dress, how he will speak (I say he but it could just as easily be she), what job he will do etc etc.  But what we negate to really consider is how he will make us feel, what it would be like to be with this person and the personality traits that he will have.  Therefore, when we meet someone who could be perfect for us in every single way but they have the wrong hair colour, the wrong job or the wrong brand of jeans we dismiss this person because they do not fit the rigid ideal that we have created in our mind.

Now, not everyone does this and maybe,  just maybe the amazing guy that my friend was told about by the psychic was not at the event that she went to.  However, it could be that he was there and that the reason why she didn't see him was that she was looking for a man who met her view of what he should like.  After all how many times have we heard of people falling in love with someone they have been friends with for years. The thing is they overlook this person, for any number of reasons, but in many cases because they do not fit their description of what their "perfect" lover looks like.

In my eyes love finds us when we are ready.  Yes we need to know what it is we are looking for and what it that we want from a relationship but we also need to be open to love, both giving and receiving it.  Looks will fade and fashion changes like the wind.  So, instead of looking at the outside focus on what is on the inside; their personality, how they treat you and they make you feel.  For those of you who have not found the right partner focus on attracting a like-minded partner, consider how you want that person to make you feel and the traits that you want them to embody.  When you meet that person you will feel those feelings stir inside you and be under no doubt as to their "perfectness", for want of a better word, for you!

Love, light & sparkles

-xxx-

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